Who Are You Building a Bigger Life For?
When you think of making more of your life the first thing most people feel is selfish. This is because they are under the mistaken impression (probably given to them from childhood) that building a bigger life means you are self-centered and greedy. It seems we are taught at an early age that wanting something for yourself is wrong or sinful or evil. The purpose of this short article will be show you why this is a major flaw in thinking that actually holds many people back from creating a life of their dreams.
I will not deny for a second that wanting more and better just for yourself at the exclusion of others is NOT a lofty goal at all. It is small-minded, scarcity based thinking that will keep you playing small vs building a bigger life.
The key question that we need to ask ourselves is this: who are you building a bigger life for?
Building a Bigger Life for Yourself
Each of us wants to get the most out of our time on this planet. Especially, those of us who have gotten to a “certain age” (definition is yours) and wonder what’s left. We want to make sure we’re learning and growing all the time. Stagnation is not for us. We know all great people have kept trying to improve themselves until they draw their last breath. There is absolutely nothing wrong with this paradigm either. It’s just that at some point we realize we really want to make more of ourselves for the impact we can make NOW!
That impact goes beyond our own lives and it’s important for us to realize this. Who else can we build a bigger life for?
Building a Bigger Life for Others
Do you know any people who have been extremely successful in their careers AND life in general? How do you feel when you’re around these people? I’m not talking about blowhards either. I mean people who are engaged with their core reasons for being on this planet and just keep trying to get better at all aspects of their lives.
For me, there’s always the initial OMG response which makes me feel smaller initially. You know, the old comparison model which is extremely flawed, by the way. But I’m talking about spending time with them and finding yourself suddenly asking the tough questions. Getting yourself to ask how can YOU get more out of your life? What can you learn from these people?
Then, it hits you. You want to become the kind of person who has this effect on others. You spend some time looking at what these people do and you try, little by little, to adopt their mindset and habits. Before you know it, YOU are building a bigger life of your own.
The Real Magic Happens
If you continue extending your comfort zone and changing old habits you see things begin to change for you too. You start having more of the success you once only dreamed of. The next thing you know, you realize others are using your methods and seem to be generally more upbeat about their own prospects and lives.
By making your life richer, bigger and more exciting you give off ripples that others catch and will inspire them to change their lives as well.
Building a Bigger Life is Generous
This is when you realize building a bigger life is the most generous thing you can do for everyone whose life you come into contact with!
So, no longer wrestle with the “what will people think of me if I were rich (traveled more, in better shape, king of the world. you decide-LOL!)!”
Instead, think of the change you can be and make in the world by working on building a bigger life for yourself. It’s a lifelong pursuit that yields so much for so many more than yourself. In fact, there are those that would argue NOT building a bigger life is one of the most selfish and small minded ways to live your life. When you realize how much of an impact you can have on all you purvey there is only ONE right choice.
Let Me Hear Your Stories
Have you recently made changes in your life that had an effect much larger than you realized? How have you struggled to build a bigger life? What has been your greatest challenge so far? Leave me a comment below so we can talk about it.
I look forward to reading your comments. Then, we can all help each other move forward.