I know I’m not the only person who gets ill when they log into Facebook. You see a dream world of people you know or used to know living their perfect lives. They post all the great stuff that happens to them (some post ANYTHING that happens but that’s a whole other issue-LOL!) and you’re lead to believe their lives are one nonstop thrill after another. You know it’s not true but it can still wear on you.
The biggest problem I see with this is that most of these stories involve what I would call mile marker events. You know, ‘ I finally got up the nerve to jump out of a perfectly good airplane, bench press 500 pounds, visited Machu Picchu’, etc. This creates the impression that the ONLY things in our lives worth a damn or mentioning are the BIG things. Do you see how this brings unrealistic expectations? Like incremental change doesn’t mater. The only way to really live is to have these landmark events?
As a species, I think we humans already downplay incremental change and these social media postings only reinforce it. Unless you’re stepping completely out of your comfort zone, you’re just not living and really don’t matter.
Does this sound like a reasonable conclusion to reach? I’m here to help you see that is NOT the only way to build a bigger life.
How Did I Get Where I Am?
If you’re feeling like your life is still pretty small it’s natural to ask how you ended up where you are. I know it’s a question that’s been on my mind a lot lately and actually sparked my interest in starting this blog. I knew I wasn’t the only person who felt life has not turned out like I thought it would and wanted to do something about it.
What I’ve discovered by reading and talking to successful people is that there are three main components to building a bigger life.
- Being honest with yourself about where you are and where you’d like to be. Also, don’t be trapped by any ONE goal setting or planning technique. Be willing to try different approaches until you find one that feels right.
- Making SOME progress each day, week or month towards that destination. Whatever your review period is. Being able to show some progress consistently.
- Never quit trying new things, no matter how small they are. The only way to truly fail is to stop trying to improve.
That last point is probably the most important of all. Darren Hardy would tell you that even small, CONSISTENT changes will have a compound effect on your life. You know this to be true in your bones. The times you’ve been the most unfulfilled have been when you where not challenging yourself at all. Not when you weren’t jumping out of airplanes, right?
This Post Is Only An Introduction
Over the coming months and years, I’ll be writing about things we can all do while building a bigger life. Things that help us feel more alive and on track with our purpose in life. Obviously, we’ll also talk about finding that purpose. I’ve found one of the biggest reasons people have not moved forward in their lives is because what they’re doing just doesn’t inspire them. That’s a hurdle that needs to be worked on and reviewed often in our lives. We’ll get to that in later posts as well.
Today, I just wanted to introduce to you the idea that incremental change is NOT playing small. You CAN build a bigger life by deciding on and taking small incremental changes. I’ll be sharing my experiences with different methods and ideas and I hope you’ll feel you can share as well.
What To Do Today
This will be a standard part of all my posts here going forward. I am a firm believer that all the information in the world is worthless if you don’t take SOME action on it. Sometimes, it may be nothing more than recording a voice memo to yourself to play for a week to remind you to try ONE thing different that day. Other times, they may be more involved. The important thing is that I’m NOT going to make you do anything you are completely against. That is a losing proposition and recipe for failure.
All I ask is that you give honest consideration to the ideas I present and see how they feel before deciding against them.
Is that fair?
Here’s what to do today.
- Stay off ALL social media for ONE day and see how that feels tomorrow.
- Pick a minor goal and decide on ONE thing you can do today that moves you toward it. For instance, if something as trivial as going food shopping has been getting buried every day, try just making out a quick grocery list.
- Stop thinking about all the things you haven’t done. We are going to work together to build a community of positive expectation. I’ll be going over some mindset hacks in future posts to help you release the past.
After you’ve taken your one day social media vacation, please comment below and share this post with anybody you think might benefit from it. It would mean the world to me!
Until next time,